On this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Periods, I had the pleasure of a complete however in depth dialog with the fantastic Lindsay C. Gibson, creator of Grownup Kids of Emotionally Immature Dad and mom (2015, New Harbinger). We focus on what emotional immaturity means, the varieties of emotionally immature mother or father (EIP), emotional loneliness, why an emotionally immature mother or father seems capable of do issues with one other baby or embody traits and behavior that they don’t with us, the affect of their behaviour, parenting as an grownup baby of an EIP, estrangement, and a lot extra.
IN THIS EPISODE…
01:21 Private connection to the e book
02:52 Interview with Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson
04:47 Understanding emotional immaturity
06:11 The affect of emotional immaturity on relationships
11:59 The position of emotional loneliness
17:58 The cycle of emotional immaturity
23:57 Reflections on development
45:13 Sorts of emotionally immature mother and father (EIPs)
01:02:30 Favouritism and superficial relationships of emotionally immature mother and father
01:04:10 How EIPs train worry of feelings
01:06:55 Stoicism and emotional regulation
01:09:00 Reparenting and emotional expression
01:11:44 Internalisers vs. Externalisers
01:17:42 Individuals pleasing as a ‘superpower’
01:24:30 Parenting with emotional consciousness
01:29:22 The ability of apology and restore in parenting
01:34:11 Breaking apart with an emotionally immature mother or father
01:36:33 Sustaining self-connection in parent-child relationships
04:18 Addressing childhood trauma and emotional baggage
LINKS MENTIONED AND RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
- Grownup Kids of Emotionally Immature Dad and mom: by Lindsay C. Gibson
- New Yr, New No, and Recognising the Darkish Aspect of Individuals Pleasing (ep. 276)
- It’s Not That You’re Not ‘Good Sufficient’ — You’re Over-Accountable (ep. 158)
- Giving Up The Position of Being Over-Accountable
- Cease The ASSumptions: 28 Dodgy Causes Individuals Give For Selecting Somebody For A Relationship
- Roles – “I Need To Break Free” (ep. 128)
- Fake empathy and backdated empathy: When it feels such as you’ve been ‘jacked’
- Dad and mom Believing They ‘Had It Worse’ Makes Empathy Troublesome for Them
- The Energy of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Constructing Intimacy, Resilience, and Belief by Ed Tronick and Claudia M. Gold
- Sorry Appears To Be The Hardest Phrase (ep. 105)
- Forgiving Me For Abandonment
- My e book The Pleasure of Saying No
- The Age of Obedience – However Will You Get Into Hassle, Although? (ep. 242)
- Let’s Speak About Household Estrangement (ep. 204)
- I Broke Up with My Mom
- Decluttering Exes On Your Telephone, Household Secrets and techniques, No Plus-One? (ep. 36)
- Extra Concepts Than Time, How To Keep away from Drama With That Household Member, Trusting Your self (ep. 65)
- Future Faking, Choices With Tough Household Members, Yikes! One other Favour! (ep.10)
- Cease shaming you for having wants
- Let’s Speak About Emotional Wants (ep. 149)
- You ARE Allowed to Have Boundaries With Household
- Some Dad and mom Couldn’t Be Who We Wanted, and We Must Forgive Ourselves
- About Concern of Abandonment and Why We Decrease Our Requirements
- Battle Spotlights The Reality of Our Extra Fragile Relationships (ep. 239)